Vilket frieri!


;)


Carols pappa Eduardo i Brasilien mejlade och sa att den har videon paminde honom om mig (?!)

Bor papekas att han endast har sett mig i holidaymode!


Slipper Club



Mira mejlade idag och sa att hastkapplopningen vi ska pa pa lordag ar den storsta i racing kalendern pa hela aret.

Jag trodde det var tvartom, att inte sarskilt manga gick pa races under pask.

Men vi fick iallafall lite panik over att faktiskt inte ha bokat platser eller nagot av eventen, vi hade bara tankt dyka upp, betala intrade och hoppas pa att hitta platser anda.

Men vi insag idag att det mycket val kan vara fullt nar vi kommer dit.

Sa ikvall (nar jag kommer hem och har mitt kreditkort igen!) ska jag boka biljetter till radiokanalen Nova's Slipper HQ:


Slipper HQ



international lounge

Looking to combine all the racing action with a casual and fun atmosphere? Located in the Exhibition Centre opposite the 200m mark on the home straight, your ticket to the NOVA 969 Slipper HQ hosted by Fitzy & Wippa is your best bet – featuring singing sensation Jessica Mauboy performing live with 2 x teaser sets in the afternoon, and a 30 minute grand finale to cap off a huge day of entertainment both on and off the track!



Jessica’s only performances on the day will be in NOVA 969 Slipper HQ, plus see NOVA 969 broadcast live onsite. Do not miss your chance to witness Australia’s richest day of racing, plus be treated to a private performance by one of Australia’s international super-stars. All this and more for just $109!



Package Includes

  • Entrance to the racecourse
  • Access to an indoor/outdoor area with unreserved seating and lawn space overlooking the track
  • Two x $10 food vouchers to be redeemed from a selection of outlets
  • Two x drink vouchers (standard drink)
  • Entertainment including 3 x live performances by Jessica Mauboy, plus a live DJ throughout the day
  • Access to betting and bookmaking facilities
  • Complimentary parking

PRICE: $109 per person


25 Happiest Animals In The World


This Elephant

Secret To Happiness: Ability to blow water out of nose; having no particular place to be. 
Favorite Thing: Hurrying anyway.

2. Boo, The Pomeranian

Boo, The Pomeranian

Secret To Happiness: Seizing the day; seeing the silver lining; dressing up like a bear occasionally. 
Favorite Thing: Literally everything.

3. This Rabbit

This Rabbit

Secret To Happiness: Looking adversity in the face and squawking contentedly at it. 
Favorite Thing: Apartment-grade carpeting.

4. This Seal

This Seal

Secret To Happiness: An abiding awareness that life is a series of profound absurdities that are beyond his control and, more importantly, not his fault. 
Favorite Thing: Mostly just seal stuff.

5. This Cat

This Cat

Secret To Happiness: A high-minded and esoteric sense of humor. 
Favorite Thing: Cat food.

6. This Crocodile

This Crocodile

Secret To Happiness: Lives in a river. 
Favorite Thing: Probably biting things.

7. This Dog

This Dog

Secret To Happiness: An unshakeable belief that the simple things in life require all of our attention all of the time. 
Favorite Thing: Drooling.

8. This Stoat

This Stoat

Secret To Happiness: Advanced hopping/pouncing ability. 
Favorite Thing: Eating small rodents.

9. This Sloth

This Sloth

Secret To Happiness: Strong sense of self worth. 
Favorite Thing: Looking smug.

10. This Squirrel

This Squirrel

Secret To Happiness: Hard work; simple, old-fashioned, American values. 
Favorite Thing: Being a homeowner.

11. This Seal

This Seal

Secret To Happiness: Lives on the beach. 
Favorite Thing: Jokes.

12. This Anteater

This Anteater

Secret To Happiness: Welcomes each new opportunity with open arms and a glad heart. 
Favorite Thing: Ants, probably.

13. These Meerkats

These Meerkats

Secret To Happiness: Delight in companionship. 
Favorite Thing: Eating small rodents.

14. This Elephant Seal

This Elephant Seal

Secret To Happiness: Good humor, kindness, relentless optimism, and a long floppy nose-like facial appendage. 
Favorite Thing: Calamari.

Via: break.com

15. This Owl

This Owl

Secret To Happiness: Ability to see the fun side of everything; ability to rotate neck 270 degrees in either direction. 
Favorite Thing: Eating small rodents.

16. This Dog

This Dog

Secret To Happiness: Persistent, unmitigated enthusiasm without context. 
Favorite Thing: Interrupting.

Via: picfor.me

17. This Rabbit

This Rabbit

Secret To Happiness: Getting it. Just getting it. 
Favorite Thing: Seeing the bigger picture.

18. This Owl

This Owl

Secret To Happiness: Wisdom, grace, refinement, and a philosophical temperament.
Favorite Thing: Eating small rodents.

19. This Owl

This Owl

Secret To Happiness: An unabashed sense of wonder at the everyday marvels that the world has to offer. 
Favorite Thing: Being a little owl.

Via: ohmyowls

20. This Puffer Fish

This Puffer Fish

Secret To Happiness: Taking life as it comes. 
Favorite Thing: Being the second-most poisonous vertebrate on the planet.

Via: fark.com

21. This Baby Elephant

This Baby Elephant

Secret To Happiness: Seeing each new challenge as an opportunity. 
Favorite Thing: Rolling in trash.

22. This Duckling

This Duckling

Secret To Happiness: Buoyancy, levity, and an enviable knack for discovering joy in the little things. 
Favorite Thing: Actually being one of the little things.

23. This Dog With Spaghetti On His Face

This Dog With Spaghetti On His Face

Secret To Happiness: A fierce, unshakeable hopefulness paired with a realistic understanding of his place in the world. 
Favorite Thing: Licking spaghetti off own face.

Via: dooce.com

24. This Bulldog

This Bulldog

Secret To Happiness: Stopping to smell the roses; stopping to smell everything else. 
Favorite Thing: Smelling things.

25. This Lamb

This Lamb

Secret To Happiness: Constant prancing. 
Favorite Thing: Constant prancing.


Dykcert!



Igar kopte jag en kurs for att ta mitt open water dykcertifikat!

Har velat ta dykcert sedan jag dok i Stora Barriarrevet i 2007 men det har inte blivit av.

Forsta gangen jag dok var nar jag bodde i Grekland i 2005, och jag tyckte det var ratt laskigt.

Fick lite klaustrofobi kansla av att vara under vattnet och hora min andning sa tydligt medans oronen dunkade av smarta nar vi simmade djupare ner.

Men nar jag dok i barriarrevet alskade jag det och gjorde om det en gang till samma dag. Instruktoren sa till mig da att jag borde ta ett certifikat.

Det ar ju som att upptacka en helt annan varld dar under ytan, men vackra fiskar och vaxter.

Sa for er som har dykt en gang och inte gillade det - testa igen! Har hort att det ar manga som tycker det ar obehagligt forsta gangen, och det ar ju inte sa konstigt.

I kursen jag kopte ingar tio dyk - langtar redan!

Drommen ar att aka till Papua Nya Guinea och dyka, det ska visst ha nagra av de finaste stallena i varlden for dykning.

Har nagon av er dykcertificat? Dyker ni ofta, och isafall var?




Jag, Diana och en jattemussla i Stora Barriarevet


Carefree and cool



En bekants hem ar i nya numret av real homes & ideas.

De har renoverat sitt Cronulla hus - visst ar det fint?







Shit Swedish Girls Say


Svenskkvallen igar...

... var jattetrevlig, vi blev tio tjejer (tror jag?) som mottes for vin pa The Loft, och sedan gick vidare till Cargo Bar.
Jag var dar forst och insag att jag ju inte visste hur halften av de som skulle komma ser ut (hade bara traffat tva av dem innan) och det kandes nastan som att vara pa grupp-blinddejt ;)
Men som tur var sa kande ni igen mig:)
Var kul att traffa nytt folk och prata svenska och roligt hur det kandes som jag redan `kande' er vars bloggar jag laser. :)
Hoppas det kan bli fler ganger! Vi borde kora svensk filmkvall nagon gang med, nar/om vi flyttar in i huset sa far ni komma ner till Cronulla allihopa.
Tack igen for att ni kom!:)

Svensk utekvall i Sydney


Pa fredag kor vi svensk utekvall i Sydney!

Vi blir runt tio (om ni som kommenterade hanger med plus tva av mina svenska kompisar) och jag tankte fordrinkar pa The Loft i Darling Harbour vid sextiden.

(Nya Sydney-lasare som inte kommenterade sist, ni far sjalvklart ocksa hanga med!)

Passar det?



Overheard in the Newsroom

 

 

Sports writer talking to an intern: “You can start a story with a quote twice in your career. Once when you’re an intern, and again if the Pope ever says fuck.''




Reporter: “Just way too much family time this past weekend.” Editor: “Well, maybe we’ll find a nice murder for you today.”




Copy editor way behind on deadline: “This is usually when I wake up and am happy it’s just a dream.”




Managing Editor: “I think I have done enough journalism that I would be a really good serial killer.”



Cops reporter on indecent exposure arrest: “I haven’t written about a guy exposing himself in public since last summer. It’s a true sign of spring!”






Famous Paintings Improved by Cats












Hamtat fran Sad and Useless: the most depressive humour site on the net.

Vad sager detta om min humor? ;)



Utekvall i Sydney?



Ska ut med nagra svenska tjejer i Sydney fredagen den 10 februari, vill du hanga med?

Svenska killar ar forstas ocksa valkomna. Ta garna med dig vanner (the more the merrier!) men endast folk som pratar svenska.

Kommentera om du vill med sa att jag far en ide av hur manga som ar intresserade. Vet inte an vart vi ska ga, lamna garna forslag!
:)





HaM i Sunday Tele



H och jag fick en kul overraskning i sondags nar vi satt pa Nuns Pool och at frukost och bladdrade igenom tidningen.

Sunday Telegraph, Australiens mest lasta sondagstidning, har en Date with Kate artikel varje vecka dar journalist Kate Waterhouse intervjuar en kandis pa ett cafe eller en restaurang nagonstans i Sydney.

Den har veckan valde de att ga till Hs cafe! :)

Hon intervjuade Cheyenne Tozzi, en modell/sangerska som kommer fran Cronulla och ofta ar inne pa HaM nar hon ar hemma.

Kul, och H blev glad saklart!





Date with Kate: Cheyenne Tozzi

Kate Waterhouse
January 22, 2012
Cheyenne Tozzi with Kate Waterhouse.

Juice break ... Cheyenne Tozzi and Kate Waterhouse catch up at Ham cafe and deli. Photo: Sahlan Hayes

WE WENT TO Ham cafe and deli, Cronulla.

WE DRANK Freshly squeezed orange and apple juice.

CHEYENNE WORE Ksubi shorts, Bassike singlet, Chanel bag and Havaianas



New York-based model and aspiring singer Cheyenne Tozzi is one of Australia's leading exports. She has graced the cover of Vogue Mexico and is an ambassador for Mambo Goddess but it's her personal life that really captures the media's attention. She has been rumoured to have dated Entourage star Jeremy Piven, rapper Kanye West and actor Mickey Rourke. Kate Waterhouse caught up with the 23-year-old, who grew up in Sydney, to chat about her fledgling music career and those persistent relationship rumours. 

What are you up to at the moment?

My life is nuts at the moment. I'm still working on my album; I just did a song with Luke Pritchard, [the frontman of] the Kooks. I write all my own music and I've just been trying to ''find'' my sound.

 

Did you always want to be a singer?

We grew up with world music in our house. I always played instruments but I'm not a trained singer. I sound more husky but that's the vibe I wanted to go with. When people hear the music, I hope [they] are going to see a whole different side to me. I just want people to look at me differently and not just as a model.

 

What is your biggest achievement so far?

I had my first Vogue cover last year. All my jobs have been amazing - I think everyone is a blessing - but my Vogue cover was definitely a ''Yes!''

 

Will you ever move back to Australia?

Yes, 100 per cent, when I have my babies!

 

Are you dating anyone now?

No, I'm single.

 

What do you look for in a man?

I have beautiful friends around me and that's all I need. I'm just over the men side of it and I'm quite happy to just float because I'm just focused on work this year.

 

Are rumours you dated Kanye West and Mickey Rourke true?

Yes, me and Kanye have 15 babies but we just don't want to tell anyone. No, it's just so stupid … it's embarrassing to me because these people are my friends and they are thinking that I'm saying all this stuff, so I look like an absolute moron.

 

Are you still best buddies with Paris Hilton?

I live in New York and I've got my whole squad over there and she is in Los Angeles but I see her about once a year. People have the wrong opinion of her but she is a good kid.

 

Where do you hope to be in five years' time?

Winning Grammys!

 

Biggest indulgence?

Frozen Cokes from McDonald's … I'm a cheap date!



20 things to know before moving to Sweden



Tyckte den har var lite kul att lasa ;)


Fran The Local

1. Start building your coffee tolerance

According to the International Coffee Organization (ICO), Sweden ranks 2nd in the world after Finland in terms of coffee consumption per person. Coffee drinking is fostered through a tradition called fika — in which friends, family, and/or colleagues meet for coffee or tea.

Coffee and cake
A typical fika involves coffee, something sweet — and some serious bonding. Photo: David Murphy (CC BY NC SA)

Fika is often enjoyed with freshly baked pastries such as cinnamon buns (kanelbullar), collectively called fikabröd. What makes the concept of fika intriguing to foreigners is the sheer frequency at which it is observed each day. It's not uncommon to grab a cup of coffee after breakfast, after lunch, before dinner, and after dinner. This tradition is an opportunity for Swedes to set aside a few moments each day for quality bonding over coffee.

2. Pick a number, please

From the pharmacy (apoteket) and tax office (Skatteverket) to your doctor's office and local grocery store's deli-meat counter, you'll be forced to exercise patience as you wait to be served in a numbered queue. Many businesses have a ticketing system — usually a small hard-to-find machine hung on a wall that dispenses number notes. Once you grab your ticket, you'll have to wait until your number shows up on a large screen before you can proceed to the counter.

3. You can probably get by with English for decades, but...

Chances are you can live in Sweden for years without learning a lick of Swedish. That's because many Swedes are fluent in English and are always happy to switch so they can practice their English on you. This means it might take you longer to properly learn the language, and the Catch-22 is that fluency in Swedish is crucial to full integration.

Signing up for SFI (Swedish For Immigrants) — which is free and provided by the Swedish National Agency for Education — could be a step in the right direction.

4. Get your shopping done before 5 p.m. (if you can)

Crowd on Drottninggatan
Rush hour in Stockholm. Photo: Jenny Gaulitz/www.imagebank.sweden.se

Many stores close early, especially at weekends and you'll be hard-pressed to find a store open past 9 p.m. that isn't a gas station. One explanation is the numerous trade unions that enforce workers' rights and place more emphasis on maintaining healthy work-live balances, thus improving overall quality of life. Swedes work to live, not live to work.

It's worth keeping in mind that since many Swedes are done with their regular jobs around 5 p.m., you'll likely be battling crowds to get your shopping done between 5 and 6.30 p.m.

5. At some point, you will squeeze food out of toothpaste tubes

To prepare you for your first visit to the cold foods section of a grocery store, understand that in Sweden, tubes are also used to package foods such as caviar, mayonnaise, mustard, and other similar condiments. And at some point, you'll probably squeeze some caviar from a tube onto half a boiled egg for breakfast.

Cheese in tubes comes in all kinds of flavours.
Cream cheese in tubes. Enough said. Photo: Todd Lappin (CC BY NC)

6. Daddies pushing strollers

When it comes to equality between the sexes, Sweden is one of the leaders, and men here definitely pull their own weight in staying home and raising infant children.

Couples are entitled to 480 days of paid parental leave, and this time can be shared between parents. So you'll often find new fathers with parked strollers and babies strapped to their chests, having lunch and fika dates with other dads.

7. Camping and hiking and picking berries

If you think high-calorie fikabröd means most Swedes are borderline obese, I'll let you in on a little secret — Swedes love the outdoors. All year round, there's at least one activity that can be enjoyed come rain, shine, or winter blizzard. And the government has made it easy to enjoy Sweden's nature by giving people the right of public access in a law called Allemansrätten.

In a nutshell, Allemansrätten means you're free to camp on and hike across private land unless a sign has been specifically put up prohibiting trespassing. During summer, you'll find people out hiking, camping, wandering through forests picking wild berries and mushrooms, and when winter rolls around, skis are strapped on and cross-country skiing replaces leisurely hikes.

The right of common access allows you to pick wild berries.
Make the most of the long sunny summer nights in Sweden.
Photo:
marcus (CC BY NC SA)

Allemansrätten also comes with responsibilities. It is imperative you respect local rules, landowners, residents, flora, fauna, and all signs. Freedom to camp also doesn't mean camping in a specific spot for weeks.

For a list of allowances, check out: "The Right of Public Access – What is allowed?"

8. Melodifestivalen

Few events unite (or divide) the entire country as strongly as Melodifestivalen. This widely popular music event, held every February through March, is a welcome distraction on long dark winter nights. Melodifestivalen is an annual national music competition and its voted winner goes on to represent Sweden in the Eurovision Song Contest which pits European countries against each other musically. Melodifestivalen launched the career of a certain band named ABBA, which went on to win the 1974 Eurovision Song Contest with "Waterloo".

9. Many businesses shut down in July

It's not uncommon to find restaurants and stores shut down for an entire month, usually in July, while employees take their 4-6 week vacations. Did I already mention trade unions and their enforcement of workers' rights?

10. Try keeping it "lagom"

There is a societal code of conduct in Sweden which really has no direct translation in English. Loosely translated, the word "lagom" means "just enough," "in moderation," "appropriate," and other synonyms you can pull out of the dictionary. When used in reference to societal behavior, it means blending in appropriately without extreme displays of emotion.

11. Locate your nearest IKEA

There are very few stores in Sweden where you can buy affordable furniture and food at the same time, so it's definitely worthwhile locating your nearest IKEA. Many IKEA stores offer free bus services from central locations to the store and back. For those relocating to Stockholm, IKEA Kungens Kurva runs a free bus from downtown (Vasagatan 18) every hour.

12. Nice shoes. Please take them off

You'll quickly notice that shoes are taken off when entering private residences in Sweden. There are many theories surrounding this old tradition. Many revolve around the fact that Swedes spend a lot of time outdoors during winter and are prone to dragging in dirt, so taking shoes off at the door is done for hygienic purposes. Other theories say it's a sign of respect for the Swedish home. Either way, you might want to think twice before wearing full lace-up boots when visiting folks.

13. Winters are really cold, dark, and can be depressing

It's no secret that Sweden's geographical location makes it prone to cold, dark winters. At the depth of winter in some northern parts of the country above the Arctic Circle, you might get as little as three hours of sunlight per day. And in Sweden's northernmost city, Kiruna, you get no (as in zero) hours of daylight.

While winters can be rough, you'll be rewarded during summer with long hours of daylight and moderately warm temperatures which make Sweden one of the most beautiful places to be in during May to August.

14. Be on time

It is common knowledge here that "time" should be respected at all times — regardless of whether you're going for an interview or meeting up with friends for fika (unless in the case of emergencies). Meetings will start on time with or without you. The train will leave on time with or without you. While many cultures may have more relaxed attitudes towards appointments, here in Sweden, time truly waits for no man because Swedes value punctuality.

15. Get your tasty adult beverages at state-run Systembolaget

While you can purchase alcoholic drinks in restaurants, bars, and pubs, if you'd like to take a sip from the bottle in the privacy of your own home, you've got only one legal option of buying stronger alcohol, and that's from one of the roughly 400 state-run liquor stores called Systembolaget. Considering Sweden has a population of just 9 million, and Systembolaget reported 116 million customer visits in 2010 alone, it seems to be a popular location.

16. Keep that plastic bag

Before you toss out that plastic bag, you may want to reconsider. Most grocery stores will charge you a few kronor for plastic or paper bags in an effort to keep waste low and encourage recycling. Sweden is one of the most eco-friendly countries on Earth, and its capital Stockholm was awarded the European Green Capital distinction in 2010 which recognizes exemplary recycling and sustainability efforts.

17. Special days celebrating food

While Sweden proudly celebrates religious holidays (Christmas, Easter) as well as historically pagan festivals (Midsummer, Walpurgis Night), there are three more important dates worth noting. These are days when Swedes collectively celebrate the following foods:  cinnamon buns (October 4), pancakes and semlor (Fettisdagen, or Shrove Tuesday, on last day before Lent), and waffles (Våffeldagen, March 25).  This means you're allowed to gorge on said food all day long without feeling guilty.

18. It is safe to drink the water

Drinking straight from the tap is the norm and highly encouraged in Sweden. The water is clean, fresh, and ice cold so you can save tons of money (and the environment) by not buying bottled water.

Drinking fresh water from a stream.
No worries, the Swedish tap water is just fine. This is just another Swede enjoying the outdoors. Photo: Fredrik Broman/VisitSweden (CC BY NC ND)

19. Business casual means jeans

General everyday fashion in Sweden is simple, relaxed, and casual. This same concept has seamlessly seeped its way into more formal business settings. Unless your colleague is meeting foreign clients or attending a high stakes board meeting, chances are they are wearing jeans and a long-sleeved shirt.

20. Not all education and healthcare is free

Contrary to popular belief, not all healthcare and education is free, a common misconception many foreigners hold about Sweden's subsidized social system.

As of autumn 2011, Swedish universities will charge students who are not citizens of the EU, EEA or Switzerland. The universities set their own fees, which will mostly vary between SEK 80,000-140,000 per academic year, depending on the subject. Fees for medicine and art programs will be even higher.

While healthcare is heavily subsidized by the Swedish government and taxpayers, don't be surprised if you're required to pay a few hundred crowns for a visit to the doctor. For routine doctor's office visits, the maximum amount you may have to pay out of pocket for an entire year is SEK 900 (SEK 1,800 for prescription drugs).

Considering that works out to roughly USD 145 per year (USD 290 for drugs), that's a lot less than what many new residents have to pay in their home countries.

This feature has been published by the Swedish Institute.



Mer brollopsbilder...


... fran en professionel fotograf den har gangen :)














So close


Fick precis ett mejl fran Carol, som jag var brudtarna at i Brasilien forra manaden, med de har bilderna och ett ``just to show that our plan almost worked''!

Hennes plan var att jag skulle fanga buketten, och visst siktade hon ratt bra? (Ni ser mig va? Enda blondinen i hela forsamlingen tror jag.)

Tyvarr sa landade buketten bakom en stol och en tjej slangde sig over den i blixtfart.








How NOT to get a second date (but maybe a restraining order)


New Yorker Mike skickade detta mejlet till en tjej han gick pa en dejt med efter att hon inte horde av sig:


Hi Lauren,

I’m disappointed in you. I’m disappointed that I haven’t gotten a response to my voicemail and text messages.

FYI, I suggest that you keep in mind that emails sound more impersonal, harsher, and are easier to misinterpret than in-person or phone communication. After all, people can’t see someone’s body language or tone of voice in an email. I’m not trying to be harsh, patronizing, or insulting in this email. I’m honest and direct by nature, and I’m going to be that way in this email. By the way, I did a Google search, so that’s how I came across your email.

I assume that you no longer want to go out with me. (If you do want to go out with me, then you should let me know.) I suggest that you make a sincere apology to me for giving me mixed signals. I feel led on by you.

Things that happened during our date include, but are not limited to, the following:

- You played with your hair a lot. A woman playing with her hair is a common sign of flirtation. You can even do a Google search on it. When a woman plays with her hair, she is preening. I’ve never had a date where a woman played with her hair as much as you did. In addition, it didn’t look like you were playing with your hair out of nervousness.

- We had lots of eye contact during our date. On a per-minute basis, I’ve never had as much eye contact during a date as I did with you.

- You said, 'It was nice to meet you' at the end of our date. A woman could say this statement as a way to show that she isn’t interested in seeing a man again or she could mean what she said–that it was nice to meet you. The statement, by itself, is inconclusive.

- We had a nice conversation over dinner. I don’t think I’m being delusional in saying this statement.

In my opinion, leading someone on (i.e., giving mixed signals) is impolite and immature. It’s bad to do that.

Normally, I would not be asking for information if a woman and I don’t go out again after a first date. However, in our case, I’m curious because I think our date went well and that there is a lot of potential for a serious relationship. Of course, it’s difficult to predict what would happen, but I think there is a lot of potential for a serious relationship developing between us one day (or least there was before your non-response to my voicemail and text messages).

I think we should go out on a second date. In my opinion, our first date was good enough to lead to a second date.

Why am I writing you? Well, hopefully, we will go out again. Even if we don’t, I gain utility from expressing my thoughts to you. In addition, even if you don’t want to go out again, I would like to get feedback as to why you wouldn’t want to go again. Normally, I wouldn’t ask a woman for this type of feedback after a first date, but this is an exception given I think we have a lot of potential.

If you don’t want to go again, then apparently you didn’t think our first date was good enough to lead to a second date. Dating or a relationship is not a Hollywood movie. It’s good to keep that in mind. In general, I thought the date went well and was expecting that we would go out on a second date.

If you’re not interested in going out again, then I would have preferred if you hadn’t given those mixed signals. I feel led on. We have a number of things in common. I’ll name a few things: First, we’ve both very intelligent. Second, we both like classical music so much that we go to classical music performances by ourselves. In fact, the number one interest that I would want to have in common with a woman with whom I’m in a relationship is a liking of classical music. I wouldn’t be seriously involved with a woman if she didn’t like classical music. You said that you’re planning to go the NY Philharmonic more often in the future. As I said, I go to the NY Philharmonic often. You’re very busy. It would be very convenient for you to date me because we have the same interests. We already go to classical music performances by ourselves. If we go to classical music performances together, it wouldn’t take any significant additional time on your part.

According to the internet, you’re 33 or 32, so, at least from my point of view, we’re a good match in terms of age. I could name more things that we have in common, but I’ll stop here. I don’t understand why you apparently don’t want to go out with me again. We have numerous things in common. I assume that you find me physically attractive. If you didn’t find me physically attractive, then it would have been irrational for you to go out with me in the first place. After all, our first date was not a blind date.

You already knew what I looked like before our date. Perhaps, you’re unimpressed that I manage my family’s investments and my own investments. Perhaps, you don’t think I have a 'real' job. Well, I’ve done very well as an investment manager. I’ve made my parents several millions of dollars. That’s real money. That’s not monopoly money. In my opinion, if I make real money, it’s a real job. Donald Trump’s children work for his company. Do they have 'real' jobs? I think so. George Soros’ sons help manage their family investments. Do they have 'real' jobs? I think so.

In addition, I’m both a right-brain and left-brain man, given that I’m both an investment manager and a philosopher/writer. That’s a unique characteristic; most people aren’t like that. I’ve never been as disappointed and sad about having difficulty about getting a second date as I am with you. I’ve gone out with a lot of women in my life. (FYI, I’m not a serial dater. Sometimes, I’ve only gone out with a woman for one date.) People don’t grow on trees. I hope you appreciate the potential we have.

Am I sensitive person? Sure, I am. I think it’s better to be sensitive than to be insensitive. There are too many impolite, insensitive people in the world.

I suggest that we continue to go out and see what happens. Needless to say, I find you less appealing now (given that you haven’t returned my messages) than I did at our first date. However, I would be willing to go out with you again. I’m open minded and flexible and am willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. I wish you would give me the benefit of the doubt too.

If you don’t want to go out again, in my opinion, you would be making a big mistake, perhaps one of the biggest mistakes in your life. If you don’t want to go out again, then you should have called to tell me so. Even sending a text message would have been better than nothing. In my opinion, not responding to my messages is impolite, immature, passive aggressive, and cowardly. I spent time, effort, and money meeting you for dinner. Getting back to me in response to my messages would have been a reasonable thing for you to do. In addition, you arrived about 30 minutes late for our date. I’m sure you wouldn’t like it if a man showed up thirty minutes late for a first date with you.

If you’re concerned that you will hurt my feelings by providing specific information about why you don’t want to go with me again, well, my feelings are already hurt. I’m sad and disappointed about this situation. If you give information, at least I can understand the situation better. I might even learn something that is beneficial.

If you don’t want to go out again, that I request that you call me and make a sincere apology for leading me on (i.e., giving me mixed signals). In my opinion, you shouldn’t act that way toward a man and then not go out with him again. It’s bad to play with your hair so much and make so much eye contact if you’re not interested in going out with me again. I have tried to write this email well, but it’s not perfect. Again, I’m not trying to be harsh, insulting, patronizing, etc. I’m disappointed, sad, etc.

I would like to talk to you on the phone. I hope you will call me back at xxx-xxx-xxxx (if it’s inconvenient for you to talk on the phone when you read this email, you can let me know via email that you are willing to talk on the phone and I’ll call you). If you get my voicemail, you can a leave a message and I can call you back. Even if you don’t want to go out again, I would appreciate it if you give me the courtesy of calling me and talking to me. Yes, you might say things that hurt me, but my feelings are already hurt.

Sending me an email response (instead of talking on the phone) would better than no response at all, but I think it would be better to talk on the phone. Email communication has too much potential for misinterpretation, etc.

Best, Mike


Fran The Daily Mail
 



29 life lessons learned in travelling the world for 8 years straight



En irlandare som har varit pa resande fot de senaste atta aren har listat de 29 viktigaste sakerna han har lart sig genom sina erfarenheter. Hitta inlagget har. Mycket intressant lasning!

(Hittade lanken pa Mileas blogg!)


Att julpynta bilen...



... med en rod Rudolf the Reindeer nasa och horn verkar vara en hit pa den har sidan klotet i ar.

Finns det har fenomenet i Sverige?

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